The Birth, Our Old Dad New Baby

On April 13th 2019 Demna Davit our darling little son had arrived.

He cries.

He shits.

He demands.

He keeps us awake.

IN THIS PHOTO HE IS 15-MINUTES OLD. STILL IN THE FOETUS POSITION ON THE OUTIDE.

IN THIS PHOTO HE IS 15-MINUTES OLD. STILL IN THE FOETUS POSITION ON THE OUTIDE.

I LOVE IT!

Location: St Mary’s Hospital, Manchester… Here we go.

They started us with induction at 9am Thursday 11th and after a long night of nothing in particular we were offered a C section. Five minutes (it felt like that) our baby arrived and honestly, I don’t think I have ever cried so much in my 56 years of live.

That felt like a long journey. I am so happy to have made it to the end. What with reversals, IVF and all the other stuff we went through. Now we have our boy and we love him to bits.

He looks very like his mother (unlike my previous four look very much like me). The only parts of him that look like me are…

His toes (the bent ones)

His ears… absolutely!

My wife got the whole body, I got the spare parts. His eyes are going brown like ours, I can’t wait for him to have dark curly hair like his mother and me.

What a moment of sheer magic packed with every single emotion that can be identified. It is true … despite having four older children this felt like the first all over again but different.

So its three weeks later, our son is doing amazing and now I have a minute to update you.

The big changes for this old dad and is being an older father killing me?

There really haven’t been a lot of massive changes so far (obviously there are three of us now). My wife is amazing and gets up every night to do the feeding. The truth is the child only wakes up once a night which is pretty unreal. He is strong, healthy and doing fantastic. Of course he needs attention all day, all hours, every hour but its been good and has given me a new perspective.

BUT …

Being older it’s good to remember we don’t need as much sleep and are used to.

As an older dad, I felt worried about a couple of things as I am sure you will. My response below to some of those thoughts.

Will, I feel conscious being an old dad? NO

Will, I feel happy pushing a pram again at 56? YES

Will, I be bothered or annoyed at the crying? NO

Will, I be conscious or bothered about that cliché (are you the grandad). NO

Will, I be bothered about getting woken and a lack of sleep? NO

 And there is more of course as an older father with a new baby.

What can I say apart from the bond is special, the moments are bigger and the feeling of having such a gift in my arms is incredible.

And as an older dad I have time, I have a different energy, I am not in a hurry for anything it is just pretty amazing.

I can’t forget that it was 30 years earlier my first son was born and where did that time go. This is something I will carefully savour and enjoy.

If you are about to become a new old dad… you are in for something that will be so incredibly magical your life will change everything forever I promise.

Peace.

The Old Dad, Alan.