8 Weeks In and It's Amazing

8 Weeks In and It's Amazing

At 4am this morning my wife was feeding our little bundle of magic. It’s like that every night. Some nights we are up once other nights like last night - we are up 3 times at least.

As I woke up he had been put right between us and as I opened my eyes his eyes were already wide open. The second I opened mine he had a huge smile right across his face and got excited at the thought of his dad maybe getting up at 4am to play.

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Old Dad Tired Dad Energised Dad

Old Dad Tired Dad Energised Dad

As an older dad I cant’ say enough you need to get fit or stay fit. The more I workout the more energy I have. If I go and sleep I lie on the bed wondering when I am going to sleep and hence never get any extra sleep.

I went to the gym totally tired out (and looked it) and came back after 90 minutes totally energized and ready to take on the world. I felt amazing all day and all the way to bedtime with no extra sleep.

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Your Family Reshaped

Your Family Reshaped

A happy life after divorce recovery.

Yesterday I was reminded of something I now feel I might have been forgetting.


Let me explain.

Family can be your greatest friends. They can also become your worst enemies. Divorce forces a detachment from what was and creates a new blank screen that has to be filled. Life won’t allow otherwise.

During my shocking and horrible divorce, I had the realisation of a full-on attack from family members I just didn’t expect. I needed support but had a violent attack from places I didn’t see it coming from. Of course, I wasn’t the only victim.

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Your Life Continuum

Your Life Continuum

My darling wife Tamuna is 12-weeks pregnant and we have a new child coming along in April. I can only pray it is more of its mother rather than is rather eccentric rule breaking father.

But maybe not at the same time. A mix would be good.

The excitement of this part of my life is indescribable despite the fact that this is to be my 5thchild I certainly never expected to feel like this.

I am asking questions; Am I trying to play against the natural course of a man or am I simply tapping into a man’s natural course? Maybe a course that has been more forgotten with the endless layers of what should and shouldn’t be done. More an enforcement of the model man that doesn’t really exist?

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Young Wife Old Husband, I'm Tired

Young Wife Old Husband, I'm Tired

My wife is 14-years younger than me or I am 14-years older than her.

So with her age difference and then new kids on top of that you are going to need to be brought back to life or even resurrected ;-)

So depending on what kind of guy you are you might be lacking in energy or be fine. I am writing this post on the basis that you are a typical older dad - TIRED!

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Checking Out Prams

Checking Out Prams

The first thing to be said here is the only other people looking at this stuff are in their late twenties … maybe YOUNGER than my eldest son!

So let's get to it.

A young guy asks us if we need help. I reply yes can you show us how this pram comes apart and changes? His reply, NO it’s too complicated to put back together.

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Week 25 The Baby is Kicking

Week 25 The Baby is Kicking

The thrill is thrilling. It makes me feel engaged, alive and as excited as any first father. There is more. The passing of life makes you realise that life is too fast. You never feel it is too fast when it is passing but looking back in older age you realise it then. Suddenly the babies are all almost 30-years old. Its a speed that has no real measure.

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Having a New Family When You’ve Had a New Family

Having a New Family When You’ve Had a New Family

It’s hard to describe how I feel having a new baby at 56-years of age. I feel elated, happy and have that feeling you have when having a new family. I keep seeing moments and situations and scenarios on my mind approaching but from a different more experienced perspective.

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12 Weeks Pregnant How I Feel

12 Weeks Pregnant How I Feel

Today is the 12-week scan since the implantation. It’s 3D so we never had that when I had my first son 30-years earlier. This is the scan that tells you everything is going to be fine. They measure fingers, toes the lot. I can’t wait.

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