The old dad blog project is dedicated to old dads and new older dads over forty, fifty and more.
Being a father again over the age of fifty brings a ton of questions and experiences like IVF or vasectomy reversal, getting fit again and simply the prospect of being an old new dad. I’m happy to share everything I am going through and have gone through so far.
The Old Dad, Alan.
At 104 years old he works 7-days a week and loves it. Gives over 150 lectures and stands for the full 90-minutes to keep himself-strong. He believes that his daily well-being comes from feeling good and nothing more. He also stays those that live long are never overweight. He finished by explaining his diary is full for the next 12-months.
I will say this about my wife, not only is she the best thing that ever happened to me she has an incredible future vision.
When we first met way back in 2009 and I had invited her for dinner she asked me if I would like more children (as I have four already).
I wasn’t sure but I said yes, all the same.
She didn’t know then but there were some very obvious hurdles to overcome. One being I had a vasectomy 16-years earlier (that’s a real hurdle).
Both presenters asked the same question and it was this…
“What are the downsides to being an older father or old dad?”
Here’s the reality for all old dads in their fifties or more.
This week I got an email from a reader in his later fifties - like myself. He asked the question above and then went on to share his fears.
Things like, if I have another child in my fifties will this wife also leave me and then end up with another child only at the weekends?
Will I have the energy to look after the child?
Congratulations Quentin Tarantino and your gorgeous wife Daniella Pick. You at 56-years and she at 36 … Just perfect!
Congratulations Michael Sheen and welcome to an amazing new club where men like you, me and others are actively redefining what a dad is and old age is.
At 4am this morning my wife was feeding our little bundle of magic. It’s like that every night. Some nights we are up once other nights like last night - we are up 3 times at least.
As I woke up he had been put right between us and as I opened my eyes his eyes were already wide open. The second I opened mine he had a huge smile right across his face and got excited at the thought of his dad maybe getting up at 4am to play.
As an older dad I cant’ say enough you need to get fit or stay fit. The more I workout the more energy I have. If I go and sleep I lie on the bed wondering when I am going to sleep and hence never get any extra sleep.
I went to the gym totally tired out (and looked it) and came back after 90 minutes totally energized and ready to take on the world. I felt amazing all day and all the way to bedtime with no extra sleep.
And as an older dad I have time, I have a different energy, I am not in a hurry for anything it is just pretty amazing. I can’t forget that it was 30 years earlier my first son was born and where did that time go. This is something I will carefully savour and enjoy.
Congratulations to Gordon Ramsay, old dad and new father.
A happy life after divorce recovery.
Yesterday I was reminded of something I now feel I might have been forgetting.
Let me explain.
Family can be your greatest friends. They can also become your worst enemies. Divorce forces a detachment from what was and creates a new blank screen that has to be filled. Life won’t allow otherwise.
During my shocking and horrible divorce, I had the realisation of a full-on attack from family members I just didn’t expect. I needed support but had a violent attack from places I didn’t see it coming from. Of course, I wasn’t the only victim.
My darling wife Tamuna is 12-weeks pregnant and we have a new child coming along in April. I can only pray it is more of its mother rather than is rather eccentric rule breaking father.
But maybe not at the same time. A mix would be good.
The excitement of this part of my life is indescribable despite the fact that this is to be my 5thchild I certainly never expected to feel like this.
I am asking questions; Am I trying to play against the natural course of a man or am I simply tapping into a man’s natural course? Maybe a course that has been more forgotten with the endless layers of what should and shouldn’t be done. More an enforcement of the model man that doesn’t really exist?
Getting fit and staying fit over fifty. Here is my own 30 day challenge.
Intraheptatic Cholestasis in pregnancy comes and goes …
Richard Gere to become a dad again at 69
“By the time this article appears, my life will have changed more completely than I can possibly imagine. My wife Dee, who is 20 years younger than I am, is - as I write this - in the very last days of pregnancy. “
John Humphrys the angry old bloke on radio is retiring.
I always liked him. He can be mean but will say what most won’t say and will ask what most won’t ask and will tread where even angels fear to read. Anyway…
When I saw him making that announcement I remember him from when I was a lot younger and so was he.
My wife is 14-years younger than me or I am 14-years older than her.
So with her age difference and then new kids on top of that you are going to need to be brought back to life or even resurrected ;-)
So depending on what kind of guy you are you might be lacking in energy or be fine. I am writing this post on the basis that you are a typical older dad - TIRED!
The first thing to be said here is the only other people looking at this stuff are in their late twenties … maybe YOUNGER than my eldest son!
So let's get to it.
A young guy asks us if we need help. I reply yes can you show us how this pram comes apart and changes? His reply, NO it’s too complicated to put back together.
Picasso at 68 - new bay, old dad.
Chaplin at 68, new baby, old dad.
Tolstoy at 69, new baby, old dad.
Now Ronnie Wood 68 his wife 38, the rolling stone that gathers no moss.
We asked, she replied… clearly it’s a boy after showing us a scan image of what was clearly boys parts - very clearly!
The thrill is thrilling. It makes me feel engaged, alive and as excited as any first father. There is more. The passing of life makes you realise that life is too fast. You never feel it is too fast when it is passing but looking back in older age you realise it then. Suddenly the babies are all almost 30-years old. Its a speed that has no real measure.
Old dads Gordon Ramsay and of course myself. Gordon Ramsay on his fifth child at 52.
It’s hard to describe how I feel having a new baby at 56-years of age. I feel elated, happy and have that feeling you have when having a new family. I keep seeing moments and situations and scenarios on my mind approaching but from a different more experienced perspective.
My darling wife is 12-weeks pregnant and we have a new child coming along in April. I can only pray it is more of its mother rather than is rather eccentric rule breaking father.
But maybe not at the same time. A mix would be good.
The excitement of this part of my life is indescribable
Today is the 12-week scan since the implantation. It’s 3D so we never had that when I had my first son 30-years earlier. This is the scan that tells you everything is going to be fine. They measure fingers, toes the lot. I can’t wait.